As the week of Christmas starts we want to acknowledge that there are people who will be going through the holidays dealing with loss and grief for a loved one who has passed away. It isn’t an easy holiday to go through as the build-up towards Christmas and Christmas day itself may trigger a lot of memories of their loved ones.
One of our ideas on how to cope with loss and grief during the holidays is to create a new tradition after a loved one’s death.
Here are our Top 5 ideas of New Holiday Traditions after a death:
Serving a favourite dish, drink, dessert, or starter of your loved one can help family and friends remember happy memories as you all sit together and eat during the holidays.
It doesn’t have to be a big or extravagant, it can be done as part of your main Christmas meal or a separate less busy meal like breakfast or afters.
2. CANDLE LIGHTING CEREMONY
Set a day and time with your family members and close friends to light a candle for your loved one for the holiday season. You can start as early as you want that can signify the days leading up to Christmas or you can choose to do it on the day itself.
You can also set up an area where your candle will be kept lit throughout the festive season in remembrance of the person who will not be there to join you celebrate Christmas.
What’s a get-together without music? You can play your loved one’s favourite songs in the background as people gather to share their Christmas meal.
You can also choose to create a playlist of songs that remind you of your loved one. This is a great way of ensuring they are remembered during the holiday period.
4. REMEMBRANCE ORNAMENTS, DECORS, TREES
Putting holiday decorations up may be a bit too much for some who may be struggling with the loss of a loved one. If you are going to put up some decorations try adding some that remind you of your loved one and keeping the same one every year.
Remembrance ornaments is a good way to honour the memory of your loved one and also keeping the holiday routine you may already have.
5. GO SOMEWHERE YOU FEEL CLOSE TO YOUR LOVED ONE
Leading up to the big holidays you may feel overwhelmed with emotions about your loss and grief. You may feel sad and lonely that your loved one will not be there to spend the holidays with you.
You can choose to spend some time going to a place you have felt closest to your loved one. This may help you feel less anxious and focus on good memories you have shared. Getting away can help relieve some of the pressures that the holiday season can bring.
If you feel the need to speak to someone about your loss or grief, here are a few organisations that may help you with coping with the loss of a loved one: